Watching You Without Me

Are we clear? GOOD. 

Last night, a choice I made on Social Media came back to haunt me, as someone tried to get my attention via a third party. When my choices end up inconveniencing innocent bystanders? Probably time to stand up and make some issues clear, and as 2016 is just over there? /points it is probably the right moment to create a Social Media Policy for the year ahead. Everyone should have rules for their virtual spaces. This is called curating and we’ve spoken before about how important it is in your personal environments to ensure you are comfortable and happy being online.

So, let’s see if I can get everything I need into one Tweet, shall we?

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So, there you have it, and for many of you? This won’t be a surprise at all. However there are two words there that are new, and I’d like to take a moment to explain. I can spot Stalkers with relative ease, not just because your Follows are clearly biased towards your interests and your Tweets are very much narcissism embodied. I used to be a Stalker. There, I said it. I have the tendencies, I know what those feelings are like. When you firmly believe your point of view’s the only right one. When your affection for someone is greater than their affection for them. Yes, I get it all, and then some, and so that means that when you see someone else doing what you’ve done yourself? It is easier to grasp. I’m Stalker Aware and if you suddenly get blocked in the middle of the night? Check your privilege, that obsession could be showing.

Mostly, just don’t be that person.

Nobody’s perfect. Me in particular.

Somebody reminded me yesterday that far too much sway is put in the power of the individual opinion these days: as soon as someone opens their mouth on Twitter, everyone has an equally valid take. The thing is, over time, you can learn to deal with everything, and form a far better and more realistic opinion on the reality around you. It may take time, but you can totally find a level. The crap that’s been flying around my portion of social media of late has taught a lot of salutatory lessons. It’s now up to other people to set their level around everything else. Inevitably there are already casualties, but the fact remains I live and work here now, and that means I’m here for the duration. It also means that things are going to change.

You’ll see that happening as we move into 2016. Don’t say I didn’t warn you.